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A recent Inside Higher Ed article described a) two small campus protests “denouncing the mistreatment of black Americans” that involved walking on the American flag and b) huge counter-protests on behalf of the flag. The article resonated with me because just last semester, a similar controversy took place on my own campus.
Although my discussion could go in a gzillion or so directions, I’m going to focus. I’m interested in the way the #blacklivesmatter protests on all three campuses (the 2 from the article and my own) have received less support than the counter-protests defending the flag. I’m curious about the oppositional rhetoric and the divisiveness, and I can’t help but wonder:
Is there a way beyond the seeming opposition of these two groups?
I’m interested in this question for several reasons. One is because I’ve never defaced the flag or even been involved in a huge protest, but I support the #blacklivesmatters protests. I also support veterans on my campus, and my husband is an air force veteran. I sometimes feel like I straddle two worlds, but the worlds don’t feel (like they should be) oppositional.
Second, I saw students on both sides of the issue speak to one another with good will in an on-campus forum arranged by the amazing professionals who work in Student Life at my university. I liked that students were speaking and listening to one another, but I wondered if the original protest about #blacklivesmatter was pushed to the side more than it should have been.
I’m also interested because a friend from high school posted something about kicking asses of flag defacers when I Facebook-shared the Inside Higher Ed article. I removed his comment and my friend asked why, pointing out that he wasn’t being racist. The exchange made me think.
Finally, more on flag controversy seems to be happening, with people joining both the “Eric Sheppard challenge” to stomp on flags to make a statement and counter movements to overwhelm flag protests with pro-U.S.A. social media posts.
My initial response to the basic controversy
If I’m faced with the choice—do I feel more concern for lives or for a flag?—I’m going to choose lives every time. The flag is a piece of cloth. It’s great for bringing people together, but flags are also ways of pulling people apart and creating conflict. On a very basic level, flags don’t mean very much to me. And they never mean more to me than actual people.
So, my bigger challenge is to figure out why people stand up on behalf of flags so quickly and vehemently. Here are my best conjectures.
While I see the flag as a symbol with little meaning in and of itself, many many people view the flag as the ultimate symbol of the U.S. Thus, anyone who defaces the flag or otherwise disrespects the flag is explicitly defacing and disrespecting the actual country, as well as U.S. values of justice, freedom, and liberty.
Furthermore, the flag is often viewed as “belonging” to those serving in the military more so than to civilians. Veterans are viewed as having a greater stake in the flag and the country it represents because they put their lives on the line to protect it. Because of the popular association between the flag and the military, any defacement and disrespect of the former is viewed as defacement and disrespect of veterans themselves.
As the flag is conflated with
- the country as a whole;
- abstract values of justice, freedom, & liberty; and
- military personnel and veterans in particular,
it is not surprising that many become enraged when protesters deface the flag. It is viewed as a hostile action to the country, as if the flag protester is committing treason as an outsider rather than protesting as a citizen within the system.
Furthermore, many people are staunchly defensive of the military. I think this is partly a response to the poor treatment of American military veterans who served in Vietnam, as chronicled in movies as vastly different as First Blood and Forrest Gump. Of course, sometimes the military and the people who serve there do things wrong. There have been plenty of controversies in recent years, with torture in Abu Ghraib coming most readily to mind, not to mention the sexual assault chronicled in the award-winning movie The Invisible War.
However, despite evidence that the military is (or people in the military are) not always heroic or brave or good, in the popular imagination, military personnel and veterans are afforded the benefit of the doubt. They are regularly heralded as heroic and brave and good. No matter what. It’s just the default. Evidence of complexity and wrongdoing is tucked to the side because it feels good to love our country and the people who have risked their lives to defend it. In the process of praising the people who are actually heroic, we end up praising people who have not risked their lives at all, and we end up praising people who have done terrible things, and we end up feeling called to defend the military (and thus the flag) from any threat.
Even when the threat may not be a threat at all but instead a challenge for the country and the flag that represents it to be worthy of the best the military has to offer.
Why use the flag in protests?
If defacing the flag is likely to be interpreted as an attack on the country and, more specifically, those who have served in the military, it doesn’t make sense for protesters to deface it.
After all, #blacklivesmatters is about changing the way we value black lives as a country, both systemically (e.g., the problems of mass incarceration) and individually (e.g., the habit of assuming that a black person is more likely to be a criminal). Displaying disrespect towards veterans isn’t really a good means to that ends.
But what if the intention behind defacing the flag is not disrespect at all but instead a challenge to Americans to live the values the flag represents?
I believe there is a fundamental miscommunication in perceptions of the flag. While people offended by defacement of the flag perceive protesters as outsiders, the protesters see themselves as insiders who care enough about this country and the injustices experienced here to stand up, to make themselves (even more) vulnerable (than they already are), to find ways to get the attention of people who may not experience everyday microaggressions (never mind structural/institutional racism).
Defacement of the flag is a way of saying, “America, you are not delivering on your promises of justice, freedom, and liberty. America, we demand more. America, it is time for you to be worthy of the best the military has to offer.”
Part of the reason why flag protesters are not heard correctly is because they are perceived as outsiders. And part of the reason why they are perceived as outsiders is because the protesters in the #blacklivesmatter movement are assumed guilty. That is, the protesters are perceived in the exact opposite way that the military is perceived, even though both groups (or people in both groups) clearly have displayed a mix of heroism (standing on the side of justice & freedom), neutral action (not necessarily bad or good), and criminal action.
Even though I’m describing a huge (and unfair) divide in perceptions, my description doesn’t answer the question,
“Why use flags in #blacklivesmatter protests?”
After all, the divide I’m describing not only renders the flag protests ineffectual but also increases a divide that already exists. To the degree that protesters are perceived as against the (overly-idealized) military and against values of justice and freedom associated with the flag, the protesters are viewed as more guilty and criminal—and less worthy of appropriate treatment—than they had been before.
Let me pause for a moment to be clear:
- African American protesters (rather than white protesters) are likely to be viewed as already-guilty outsiders who reify their guilt and demonstrate their inability to appreciate American liberty as they deface the flag.
- White flag protesters are likely to be viewed as clueless liberal enablers who don’t value the military and who do not take pride in their country.
- Neither would be considered a “real” American, but the black person would be the one more likely to be viewed as “criminal.”
Changing the question
Have you noticed that I still haven’t answered the question? There’s a good reason for that.
I don’t think there’s a good answer. Without an extreme measure—defacement of the flag or destruction of property or violence—the #blacklivesmatter protest on my own campus, on other campuses, and in big cities like Baltimore hasn’t been given attention.
If I have to choose between a) speaking and not being heard or b) speaking in ways that will express my anger and frustration—even if that anger and frustration is misunderstood—what is the right choice?
The answer is that there is no right choice.
The answer is that it’s not up to the protesters to find a “correct” way to be heard. When the default perception is that the protesters are guilty and wrong, there’s no good way to be heard.
The answer is that those who have a problem with the flag being defaced better do a better job of listening and speaking up and intervening so that extreme action isn’t needed.
The answer is that the media can do a better job giving voice to the people who don’t usually have a voice. If you think it can’t be done or that it isn’t profitable or that people don’t pay attention, then you should spend some time looking at the work of Humans of New York.
The answer is that the question isn’t, “Why deface the flag in a protest?” but rather,
“Why do we find one reason after another to deflect the concerns of so many Americans?”
“How can we do better?”
Back in November 2014, the “Shit Academics Say” FB page posted
To be or not to be that academic who accepts student friend requests on Facebook.
A lot of academics wrote “not to be,” often in much stronger language. A lot wrote yes with contingencies: former students, alums, select students are okay; current students, not so much. I fall in the camp of accepting friend requests from students, but not initiating them.
I began spending time on Facebook in the early days, spring of 2006, and I did so with student encouragement. It all began during a class break in a Business & Technical Writing course, which met in a computer lab. The students told me about their own experiences with Facebook, and they introduced me to the Facebook wall and private messaging and “poking” (which was not considered a dirty or flirty thing in our class!). Over the next year or two, students formed groups that I joined which have since disappeared. I believe one of them might’ve been “English majors are funnier, smarter, and better-looking than other majors.” In those early days, if I hadn’t accepted student friend requests, I wouldn’t have had any FB friends at all; hardly anyone besides students used the site.
Obviously, things changed. But even though Facebook is now a place to connect with family / friends / colleagues / and more, I still accept friend requests from students. While I think it’s typical for different professors to have different boundaries with their students and I am not interested in a one-size-fits-all policy, here are some reasons why I’ve been happy with my policy to accept Facebook friend requests from students. In case you’re wondering!
1. It helps me remember that anything posted on social media is potentially visible to anyone in the world, no matter what my privacy settings are.
Occasionally in my 8(!) years on FB, I’ve posted slightly inappropriate things. Especially in the year that my New Year’s resolution was to aim for mediocrity and prioritize happy hour. But mostly I try to present myself on FB with an awareness of all the potential audiences, and that means that I try to avoid being a jerk, at the very least.
2. Students see that I’m more than my role as a professor, and I see students more fully.
3. Students send me fun and interesting things that connect to our class content.
Sometimes it’s a blog post about a feminist issue. Sometimes it’s a book review or a film review. Sometimes it’s a cultural analysis. Sometimes it’s a grammar post.
Thank you, Students! That makes my day!
4. Students see the kinds of things that I post that connect to our class content.
Sometimes when I teach American Short Fiction, I post a quote from the work that I just love.
Ah, Bartleby! Ah, humanity!
Or I may be teaching a writing class and I’m excited about the way revision is explained in a text we’re reading or the way procrastination is presented as a normal part of the writing process. So I quote!
And the students in my classes see that I’m not reading just to read; I’m reading in order to take stuff out and make it a part of who I am and what I do. The students may be more likely to read for themselves if they see me reading that way.
5. Students see that I love my work.
The truth is, I do not always love my work. But I vent privately, not publicly. Clearly, those professors who vent about students online should not be FB friends with students.
When I do share about my work, I share about my love for my colleagues or students. I’m lucky enough to have lots of awesome moments in the classroom and beyond. We also do a lot of goofy jokester kinds of things in my workplace, and it’s good to share that kind of thing online.
I also write about my own joys and difficulties with research and writing. I share this sort of thing in classes as well, but it makes a difference for students to see that I’m sharing it with a wider public on FB.
6. Sometimes students message me quick questions about an assignment.
I know that some professors might not like this, but in my experience, these have never been inappropriate or lazy questions. It’s more the kind of thing that a student might ask when passing by me on campus that clarifies in a way that helps the student out and takes little time or effort on my part.
7. I’ve been able to stay in better touch with alumni.
I see alumni getting new jobs, accomplishing things, blogging, etc. Yay, alumni! I can even invite these alums back to campus for Career Day with current students. Or I can ask them about internship possibilities for current students. I know LinkedIn serves this purpose as well. But I do not really enjoy that site for some reason; I don’t browse there the way I browse my FB newsfeed.
Recently, I hooked up a student who who is thinking about teaching English in Japan with 2 students who are doing that exact thing right now. I messaged all 3 so they could communicate with each other. I actually need to ask the 2 students in Japan if I can take their answers to create a blog post for the English Department blog. That’s how great their info was.
8. I get to see lots of baby pictures and wedding pics. I always “like” these because I enjoy a newsfeed that’s full of babies and celebrations. Alums are just more likely to be at this stage of life than the other folks I’m connected with on FB.
9. I blog and have a YouTube channel, so students check out the way I’m using social media. I get to be a role model without forcing students to read/view my work.
And I have some students doing cool stuff with new media who end up being role models for me!
10. I can invite students to events once they’re my FB friends, whether it’s a local poetry reading, an on-campus event, an English Club social.
I’m sure there are more good things! But I’ll just stop and sum it all up. Facebook is one way of creating communities and connections. I’m glad to have students who are interested to be part of my community, seeing that I have siblings, reading about my crazy days, knowing that I love the ocean, and recognizing that who I am in the classroom is part of a bigger picture. And I’m also glad to be part of their communities, seeing students’ unbelievable struggles and celebrating their impressive accomplishments.
I know there are probably a lot of pitfalls that could happen when my students are also my Facebook friends. But on a regular basis, I experience the positive effects instead of the pitfalls.
The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2014 annual report for this blog.
Here’s an excerpt:
A San Francisco cable car holds 60 people. This blog was viewed about 1,600 times in 2014. If it were a cable car, it would take about 27 trips to carry that many people.
This post will not make sense unless you read my earlier post (here). When I published that post, I felt like I had journeyed really far into someone else’s mind. But I also knew that the post didn’t represent my actual journey: From the very start, I was putting on a persona, and by the end of the post I was almost writing as myself, but not quite.
I’ve felt odd ever since I clicked on “Publish.” I’m concerned that people will not recognize the difference between the persona and my actual (evolving) views. So this Addendum is a clarification of
- why I was motivated to write that post
- what I learned
- what I hope it might do for readers
- my actual views, and reasons why they don’t fully match with the views of the persona
Why I wrote a blog post pretending I’m against #BlackLivesMatter protests
At some point in the last month, I read an article telling readers that it was okay to defriend or hide Facebook friends who espoused political views that made us cringe and feel yucky. It’s smart to surround ourselves with people who don’t make us anxious and crazy, not least because research shows engaging with people who think differently won’t actually change anyone’s mind.
“Yay!” I thought. “I don’t need to feel obligated to read things that make me uncomfortable or that challenge me to speak up. Life will be so much more pleasant!”
But next thing you know, I was reading blog postings that challenged white allies to be the ones to reach out to white anti-protesters. Spectra writes
the outrage you feel can in no way match my own and therefore you have way more emotional capacity than I do to talk some sense into the “other side.”
I need you to step up in a major way, and leverage the connections you DO have to address ignorance with conversation and interrogate white privilege with compassion.
“Damn!” I thought. “Damn.”
So when a Facebook friend from my high school days, “J,” wrote about Mike Brown and Eric Garner not being heroes and their deaths not being connected to race, I felt like I should write something, interjecting another perspective in the litany of comments that affirmed J’s perspective. J’s post was not extremist in that he acknowledged that excessive police force may have been used, and J showed open-mindedness by “liking” my comment that mildly pointed out how overwhelming racism is. No one else acknowledged that I had an alternate perspective, and that was that.
A few days later, another high school friend (“G”) posted something similar to J’s ideas, except she focused on the intentions of police officers (who do not go on shift with the intent to kill) and the intentions of Mike Brown and Eric Garner (who, she said, left their homes with the intent to commit crimes).
I couldn’t comment. Sorry, Spectra; I just couldn’t.
Part of the reason was because a Facebook comment is too short, and it’s not the place to tease out complexities.
And part of the reason was because I felt like I had no common ground to stand on. I kept thinking in oppositional ways to these Facebook friends—not just J and G, but many more, with many people being far more extreme and disrespectful in their statements. I didn’t know where to begin expressing the way I felt. I didn’t know how to talk with people whose world view seemed so different from mine.
That’s when I decided to write from the perspective of people I respected yet disagreed with—people like J and G. And that was the difficult part: putting my own perspective aside in order to move forward.
What I learned
But I learned something I didn’t know before, and that was the compassion I needed to afford the police officers who are caught in this racist culture, with a history of racial profiling and “stop and frisk” rules and lots more mechanisms for addressing poor urban crime than for addressing corporate crime.
I’m going to say a bit more about police officers below, but that is a start.
I hope my earlier post might help people understand others’ viewpoints
Honestly, I wrote it hoping to show people who don’t appreciate the #BlackLivesMatter protests the issues that are behind the protests. When I read the posts by J and G, I kept wondering, “What are they reading? Who are they talking to? How do they not know that life for African-Americans is different than life for white Americans? Do they have any African-American friends?”
That’s why the whole middle part of my post was sharing some sources that open a window onto black experiences in the U.S. I should be far more educated than I am, but I seem to have at least some awareness that is missing from a whole lot of white people.
Most of the people who responded to my post were liberal friends who support the protests. I hope that a) they don’t misread me as anti-protest and b) I helped them see anti-protest folks in a more open way. I think some kind of understanding is necessary to make things better.
My actual views
I don’t think Mike Brown and Eric Garner need to be perfect human beings—or even people who committed no crime—in order for their deaths to
- be wrong
- be part of a larger and ongoing pattern of racism
- be part of a larger and ongoing pattern of excessive force from police officers
In my original post, I wrote about belonging to a circle of white friends in college who committed small crimes but never worried about arrest. I think small crimes should be addressed, but arrests should never put lives in danger.
Furthermore, the entire prison system is a mess in the U.S., and it is definitely racist, and it will take a good bit of legislation and change to make things better. Adam Gopnik writes:
Mass incarceration on a scale almost unexampled in human history is a fundamental fact of our country today—perhaps the fundamental fact, as slavery was the fundamental fact of 1850.
In the past two decades, the money that states spend on prisons has risen at six times the rate of spending on higher education.
I believe the issue is more about racism than about excessive force from police officers, perhaps because I’m married to a retired state trooper and I know a lot about his former work. Of course, police are not the same everywhere, and I may be wrong.
I do believe in appreciating and celebrating police officers, the same way I believe in appreciating and celebrating teachers and firefighters and other people who have chosen careers because they want to make the world a better place. But that doesn’t mean mistakes and wrongdoing should not be addressed. In the cases of both Brown and Garner, the lack of indictments by the grand juries is unfathomable to me. There were too many questions and unknowns for these officers to avoid indictment. I don’t care what crimes Brown and Garner committed; unarmed people should not be killed by police officers, and when it happens, it deserves serious investigation. To do anything less dishonors not only the victims but also police officers themselves and the criminal justice system as a whole.
Why do I seem to privilege Brown and Garner and #BlackLivesMatter? Why don’t I first and foremost defend police officers and recognize their good intentions despite the mistakes that may have been made?
Because at the end of the day, I see the statistics and the patterns, and I know the odds are stacked against African-Americans. The odds are not stacked against police officers in the same way. Yes, police officers may be hurt or killed while on the job, and that is a serious risk. But that risk is part of the choice of being in law enforcement; it is part of the reason why I appreciate and celebrate police officers.
When black lives are at stake, it is not just about death but also about poverty and lack of education and employment dead ends. When black lives are at stake, it is usually not related to a career or a vocation or a noble calling. It is usually not a choice at all but rather a lack of choices.
People are protesting because serious change is needed. I have not protested, but I, too, know that serious change is needed. And I know we need to listen to all the messages that say as much. If loving the police is stopping us from listening, then we will continue to be in trouble. The divide will continue to grow.
If I don’t particularly like Mike Brown or Eric Garner, and I do like law enforcement, but I don’t consider myself racist, what do I do when people are saying, “I can’t breathe”? (an exercise in thinking through a perspective that is not my own but that is a perspective of people I respect)
Step One: I get angry
I rail against the ignorance of people who are engaged in protest.
- I cite the white unarmed people who have been shot
- I complain that Mike Brown’s death was given more attention by the president than the deaths of military veterans
- I point out that slavery ended in the nineteenth century, so I’m tired of hearing about “white privilege,” especially when I’ve worked hard for everything that I’ve earned
I don’t go around complaining about every unfair thing that has ever happened to me because that doesn’t get me anywhere. Instead, I work hard, and I do my best, and I don’t commit crimes, and I can lead a decent life.
Why don’t these protesters use their energy to make something of themselves instead of using it to complain that “things aren’t fair”? Race is only holding you back if you’re letting it hold you back.
Effects: My anger seems to connect me to others who think as I do, but it seems to create a wall when I speak with others; in a couple cases, people were speaking in measured ways, and when I started to go off, they turned away. I see some people ranting in this vein on Facebook and I “like” their posts, but some of the comments seem to dodge the point. I feel like my anger is not getting me anywhere; it’s just a dark lump sitting inside my stomach. I need to speak clearly and take action to get past this lump to a more productive place.
Step Two: I explain my position in a rational way
The facts are clear.
Mike Brown and Eric Garner committed crimes. The police officers were doing their jobs: fighting crime. Mike Brown and Eric Garner didn’t listen to the police officers and they resisted arrest. The police officers didn’t intend for anyone to die, but sometimes things escalate when people choose to commit crimes and then resist arrest.
The same thing could’ve happened to a person of any race or ethnicity. Stop saying it’s a race thing because those police officers are not looking for black men to kill; that is just not accurate or fair to those officers or police officers anywhere.
Grand juries considered each case, and neither officer was indicted. Justice was served. Why are we still discussing this?
Effects: Over 100 people liked my Facebook post in which I explained my position in a rational way. I feel validated. I’m not alone in believing that we should not persecute those police officers. Several people defriended me and called me racist, and that makes me angry. Cutting off the conversation is not the answer. Are they afraid to hear me? I am not satisfied. My current position is better than my anger, but there is still a wall. Do we really think that differently?
Step Three: I wonder why others don’t see the situation as I do
I wonder: Why are some of my (former Facebook) friends irrational?
The protests continue. It’s cold outside, but people are lying on the street. Some of my Facebook friends who did not defriend me are supporting the protests. They don’t seem to question the ethics of their position, even though I believe I could not have done a better job expressing why these protests are misguided.
I wonder: What is driving these protests? Mike Brown and Eric Garner cannot possibly be heroes to the protesters, can they?
Effects: The feeling in my belly is no longer a rock; it is now an itching. I feel divided from others in a way that is disheartening, and I need to find a way to connect. I am not one to keep quiet or retreat in the face of conflict (except temporarily, when I need to cool down). I am not overly impassioned right now, but I am uncomfortable. I probably cannot solve this conflict, but I can try to understand it, try to find common ground.
Step Four: I investigate to discover other points of view
I begin clicking on articles my protest-type Facebook friends are posting.
I hear individual stories that concern me. I can easily imagine being in the shoes of each person. I don’t know what it’s like to have such experiences, never mind to have such experiences regularly.
- a professor from Vassar explains how his faculty ID keeps him from being accused of serious crimes
- a black homeowner in Connecticut is questioned when he’s shoveling his driveway
- a mom says her 3-year old son was suspended from preschool, even though white children behaved in similar ways
And then I read of a white man who points out his history of illegal activity…and his opportunity to move forward with his life despite his shortcomings. I look hard at my own story. I think of the underage drinking, the drugs, the shoplifting that seemed like no big deal in my circle of friends in my undergrad years. I think of drinking by the St. Louis arch at midnight just a few years ago and laughing with my friends when the police arrived and we hid the bottle of wine next to a park bench. I think about being white and never considering arrest (or worse) as a possibility.
I learn patterns and statistics that seem overwhelming:
- black people are far more likely to be imprisoned than white people, even for illegal drugs–even though white people use and sell illegal drugs at least as often as black people
- this disparity starts in schools— preschool to elementary to secondary schools, and also in college admissions
- wait, no: the disparity starts in homes; more African-American families live in poverty and that often means having more health problems and being exposed to more toxins
- Oh, and the disparity also occurs in the workplace for black people, as reported here and here
- some cities have policies and histories that encourage racial profiling (and often these practices do not discourage crime)
I read definitions of individual prejudice as distinct from institutional racism:
- “race-based discrimination” or “prejudice” can happen to anyone because it involves being treated unfairly on an individual basis
- “institutional racism” (also known as “systemic racism” or “structural racisim”) is based on groups of people instead of individuals; looking at the patterns and statistics above, it’s clear that, as a group, African-Americans have less power than white Americans…and it is these group patterns that seem to be at the heart of the recent protests.
Effects: I am shocked. I am sick to my stomach, really. I do not agree 100% with everything I have read, but I understand so much more than I did before. I see that these protests are about an ongoing frustration with the status quo. I see that my experiences are foreign to the experiences of others. I see that I am now positioned—that I have positioned myself—with one foot in one world and one foot in another. I see that I may be able to speak in ways that don’t build destructive walls. I see that such speaking is also always about listening.
Step Five: I explain my position in a rational way
Every time I mention the good intentions of police officers, I also explain that our country is facing systemic problems of racism, and if these issues aren’t addressed, police officers will continue to be caught in the cross-hairs.
I use the analogy of Vietnam War protesters to articulate my position. The soldiers were blamed for the problematic war, but they shouldn’t have been. They were caught in the middle of forces larger than they were.
I challenge my protest friends to clarify the actual issues that are being protested. Using cameras for constant surveillance of police officers will not get at the root of the socio-economic problems. The problems are problems of money, education, access. The problems are in a justice system that is ultimately unjust.
I tell people about a time systemic racism was clear to me and my students. I randomly gave students in a class one of four possible lists to generate in a 5-minute period:
- a list of people in history
- a list of women in history
- a list of African-Americans in history
- a list of African-American women in history
The result was exactly what you would expect. The first list was long and full of white men. The other three lists were shorter; the fourth list was the shortest of all. The students were sad, but they were not surprised.
One of my white students was horrified because she could name only 2 African-American women. I told her that her experience was an example of systemic racism. It takes a lot of work to overcome.
I want us to do this work together.
Effects: A lot of people think I support police officers too much and ask, “What about personal responsibility? What about accountability?”. A lot of people think I support African-Americans too much and ask, “What about personal responsibility? What about accountability?”. Sometimes my stomach knots in frustration. Sometimes people tell me they’re glad I’ve said something slightly different from what others have said. Sometimes people say it’s complex and tough to wrap our minds around. Sometimes I’m not aware of my belly at all because it’s not sending me danger messages. Sometimes I hear from a former student who teaches me, and I feel lucky that I can keep on learning.
Step Six: I hope
I work for empathy. I know that not listening is not an option. I listen and I speak, as best I can, in word and in deed. I appreciate those around me who are also working, who are also listening, who are also moving forward in empathy and justice.
Effects: Yet to be determined.